You know when the weather is so hot, 40 degrees plus, and we are laying there, ice block in hand, sweat running into our bum cracks and we think, ‘I just want to be naked right now’…yet no one seems to be? Why? Im drawing my attention for the final time to why society hasn’t accepted the idea of nudity. I have thought about this concept a lot the past few years, and as time progresses, society follows, but not with this one. Not too long ago I completed a ‘why no clothes’ part one and two. Both covering different aspects of this concept. I have previously discussed the effect nudity had on my self confidence and connection, and some of the darker experiences, thus influencing me to express myself nude. If you have not had a browse at these two posts, just scroll down and pop a peak if you’d like to know more. Since the time of writing those blogs I have deleted my Instagram account, for many reasons, (that is whole different post all together, but anywho) it seemed to be my main platform to express and share the beauty and being nude with nature. I loved my Instagram as it was a photo blog of expression and thoughts, where I was aiming and in hope that people may resonate or question certain constructs, and doing so in a creative way. I really loved the idea. Now with it gone, I don’t necessarily have a platform to share these ideas, which is a shame, because I certainly see it as a message that needs to be properly understood. Which brings me to the thought that the only reason people view nudity in such a light is because we the people, from day dot, are completely misinformed. When we go through school, we tend to learn about the human body in a very subtle, but sexual way. We learn that women can become pregnant if she has sex with a man. We as women learn how to say NO, and boys taught to treat women appropriately, GREAT. We are also taught somewhere down the line about rape culture and to always cover ourselves up to avoid any conflict. Always, always, always told to cover up, that it’s respectable, that it’s considerate, that it’s normal. This is all ingrained in us from the age of 5. Then we go through puberty, which is always an interesting time. The time in which I personally feel we attach ourselves to the idea that nudity is purely for sex, and as we grow up, this instinctual concept rarely fades away or alters, it remains and influences us for the majority of our lives, and we are NEVER taught to question or go beyond it. I’ve lost track of my complete nude journey but have gotten to the point now where I really want to do something about it. First thing, why are there very little to no public spaces which accept nudity? Before you think I’m naked doing my groceries down in woollies, or naked scooting my way to work, I actually wear clothes, 99% of the time, unfortunately. Although I understand in most public places it would be inappropriate. But if I’m going for a nude swim at a somewhat private swimming hole deep in the bush, how is this improper? In an environment of naturalism, vunrebility and openness, why can I not express myself in that same way? Humans can learn A LOT from nature. We tend to look at animals for similarities, that our ansestors were this animal, and let’s test this substance for a human on that animal, and certain behavioural traits of animals can be related to humans. All relevant, however, I believe there is a lack of appreciation of human to plant connection. Plants and nature define us. We could not be here without it. Every life form, every ecosystem relies upon nature. I don’t know if it’s just me but every time I’m within nature I feel content. I have such little worries, internal conflict, feelings of displacement. It feels right, to be there with it. The energy of nature is ridiculously powerful, so much so, that if you sit with it, you can feel it dancing on your skin. You notice that people who live closer to nature have lower rates of mental blockages, and tend to be more grounded. A lot of my advice to people when they are feeling uneasy is to connect back to nature. Now, if we are looking at nature, and the naked body, there is a resemblance. We never look at one tree and say it is more beautiful than another, we never look at one with a long branch and say it’s too long, we never look at its height and say it’s too tall, we never look at its size and says it’s too big or small, we just observe. And through observation we discover our gratitude and admiration for this vastly wild earth. When we are with nature it also brings us back to our roots. That we are not at all beings of materialism and superficiality. We are not beings of anger, hatred or greed. We are not beings of a regulated system. We are all born into this world naked. Vunerable. Natural. With no traits other than a power of love, compassion and peace. It is only through a growth in society that this essence is clouded over. This truth does not fade away, it is just lost within the chaos. Nature can help clear the fog and bring us back to our true form. NUDITY. I’m going to bring up a thought. What if somewhere down the line of learning, we were taught that there was TWO different types of nude. There’s sexually nude and vulnerably nude. Everyone knows the sexually nude. That we are indeed sexual creatures that express ourselves and understand and connect with each other through sex. It’s a wickedly powerful act, sometimes too powerful. But when used in a healthy conduct, it’s one of life’s greatest pleasures, not only because it feels good, but because it creates life. Fucking mind blowing. There’s plenty to learn about sexual nudity but from what I gather, a lot of us know it well. Not every time we get naked, there’s a link to sex, that must mean there is a different form of nudity. Vulnerably nude. I don’t know about you but I sure as hell can tell the difference when someone is just naked because they want to be, that it feels good for them, compared to when they want sex. You don’t even need the words yes or no, it’s pretty bloody obvious when someone is naked and wants sex or doesn’t. The way to pick up on this incredible tool, is to UNLEARN what you know about the nude body. When we see a naked body, the first thing we should see is the vulnerable body. Then based on our clear judgement, points of eye contact, manner, behaviour, words and whatever else, we can then change that to sexually nude if necessary. VULNERABLE SHOULD ALWAYS COME BEFORE SEXUAL. Initially viewing someone under a sexual light is not instinctual human nature, it is a learned conditioning. Therefore we have the ability to unlearn this function. I’m no expert on how to change the wiring of many people, other than better connecting to themselves to understand their truth, thus understand others with more clarity. In my previous posts on this topic I very much highlight the impact nudity has on self esteem and self love. When I do yoga, I’ll be nude, without fail. As the more time I spend in the nude the more comfortable I become with myself. The more I learn that my body is constantly in fluctuation yet is always as its suppose to be. If I’m not happy with it, I remain calm and work on what needs to be worked on, not ponder my days with ill thoughts. When I am nude in nature, it’s one of those feelings you can’t explain. Although, I’ve had a thought. You know when you’re having sex with someone, and most of the time you forget what you look like? You’re not focused on that weird freckle there, or cellulite here, or hair there, or what your moan face looks like… you just party like its 1999 with (mostly) no other thought of anything but this moment. That’s how being naked in nature feels. All worries of appearance and insecurities dissolve. All that remains is the present, and the understanding that everything is what it is. No stress, complete freedom. But again, you’ll have to experience it yourself, it’s well worth it. But wait… To get naked in nature either means being uncomfortable on a nude beach with much older strangers, or being super sneaky but still getting caught by a lovely bunch of Asian tourists. Where are all the nude spots!? Any sort of non tourist nature location should accept nudity. Wear clothes if you wish, but be comfortable and accepting of those that wish to bare it. I’m dreaming of the days where there’s entire national parks open to nudes. But don’t get me wrong, there’s plenty of places you still can! If you’re wanting to be introduced into the nude lifestyle, I suggest beginning in your bedroom. Once you’ve got the feels, start looking in the mirror nude. Truly terrifying. It will be hard, for those in search of self love, but with time the false perception you’ve created in your head will transform to truth. Once you begin exploring this truth, that you are glorious and indestructible, you’ll want nothing but to be naked all the time. The only reason we have poor views on ourselves is not because we are actually these things we say we are, it is because we have all grown up in a society that forces a false delusion that we are not good enough, that we should look like this and be like that, rather than accepting ourselves and others for whoever the fuck we are. Think about nature again, imperfect in numerous ways, but unfathomably beautiful. For this post, I messaged a few people for their thoughts on nudity, to see what the mins of others may think. I asked them how often they get nude, are they confident with it, would they get naked more if they could, and do they think it should be more accepted? Most if not all people would love to see a shift in people’s minds if nudity was to be more publicly accepted, that they would all anticipate a change in perspective if it was an openness. A couple of them expressed that they don’t get nude as much as they like due to feelings of insecurities or thoughts of judgement from others. Which is a real shame. The more you get naked, the more you realise that the judgement of others is nothing but a reflection of themselves, not at al to do with you. If there was a form of education based around understanding the human body and all its forms, traits of judgement would dissolve and possibly soon diminish. Influencing us further to create a universal notion that everybody is just a body. A few more have actually adopted the nude lifestyle and explained how their confidence has sky rocketed and find their views on others more humbling. All of which remain bare whenever they can! This makes my heart smile to hear other people feeling the change of something so simple yet so empowering. The Get Naked Australia Instagram and Facebook is an amazing platform to read of people’s incredible nude journeys. So many people of extremely diverse backgrounds, all with a different story. It is a growing movement as more and more people are discovering for themselves the immense benefits. I think what we need to first realise is that we are just a person with a body, no big deal. Just a natural, normal and vulnerable human body, like the other 7 billion residing the planet. Everyone gets naked, most of us every day. We all know what the naked body looks like. We all know every one is naked under their clothes. This is not new information. We do not need to learn something new to grasp this concept, rather we need to UNLEARN and REWIRE our spirits. The human body is an art form. It is perfectly imperfect. They are vessels carrying our spirit through this journey on earth. I truly love them. Each and every one. More importantly I love my own, and am so ever grateful of its surreal efforts put in every day, for me. I thank those that view my body as it is, those that accept and respect it. We are all a work in progress, and always will be, there is no end goal, just constant progression. I hope readers can absorb this message and resonate with it.
The path of real love begins and ends with you.
It is you. It will always be just you.